How I Restarted My Life Again, and How to Do It — Robert Syslo Jr
My life is one of continuous changes, upgrades, shifts, moves and expansion. The common element that took place each time was my own sense of not being satisfied with my life, my direction and what I had. It was as if I had reached a plateau each time and felt I needed to move in a new direction. 10 years ago I found myself sleeping in the back seat of my Hyundai Sonata in Los Angeles, CA. Ironically, because we are creatures of habit, I parked on the street behind my old apartment that I lived in because I could not afford it. Rent was $800.00, that is now one of my car payments. I left everything I had because the four people that were closest to me in my life at that time were all druggies, drinkers, and lacking ambition. I had to disconnect and leave them all.
Fast forward 10 years later. I was making over $300k a year, I lived in a million dollar apartment on the ocean, have a sports car and a second car, found what I thought was stability. I remember when I was homeless saying, if I only had enough to have a roof over my head. Now it was the same feeling, the feeling of missing something, a feeling of unhappiness had overcome me. Once again the four people that were the closest to me I had to walk away from. They have been removed from my life yet again. Why did I do this?
As you come up in awareness, as you have begun to really see the world and understand what is taking place within it, the opportunities, the communication, you begin to see if you would like more. For me it happened again, I took the plunge, I left it all knowing the risk that I was taking and placing myself back into a huge risk. It was a complete system restart.
How do you do this? How do you remove yourself from your friends, your family, boyfriend, girlfriend, bosses, why would you do that? I will tell you why and I want you to truly understand this point.
It is ok for you to pursue your own thoughts, your own ideas, your own perceptions, your own desire, your own reality the way that you want it.
It is ok to do that.
I was brought up with a lot of misconceptions, even in the last 5 years as I see them as the most successful of my life so far, were full of misconceptions, and strewed data that has turned out to be false as I move through entrepreneurship. Ideas that I thought were real and made sense, were actually distorted versions of truth. It took a long time to figure that out.
This will be the fourth time I have done this and each time I have done this I have gone 100x bigger than the section of life before it. I view this as a momentary transition into the next phase. There is nothing wrong with it, there is nothing wrong with starting at zero, there is nothing wrong with having an idea jumping out into your own and not knowing how it will work. It is better to do it, than let it eat away at you.
The biggest mistakes that I made came from not following what I wanted to do and following the will or idea of another. It was as if I was being run by something else not of my own control, but in learning about myself and getting myself around the right people, as I have now today, it is truly remarkable the effort it takes to make it go right for yourself.
How do you do this? How do you restart from zero without fear, against all others perceptions of what they perceive to be right. Their view is theirs, yours is yours, honor yours.
This is my viewpoint of how I have done this.
Save as much money as you can before you decide to make a serious change. Give yourself at least 6–8 months of breathing room.
Prepare yourself for the rollercoaster of emotions that will come with this — “did I do the right thing?, was I better off before?, other people look like they are doing better”- when you have this come up remember why you did this in the first place, remember you are now much more awakened then anyone else around you, so no one will understand what you are doing.
Remember you are much more enlightened then your peers. It will seem that you are the oddball, the freak, the guy who is stupid for leaving everything, remember that is ok, and that is what is supposed to happen. No one remembers the people who stay beneath others, no one remembers the people who do mediocre
Get as clear as you can on your intention to change your life. What will it look like, how will you build it, where do you want it to be in 90 days from now.
Be willing to disconnect from family, friends, bosses, mentors, anyone who no longer aligns with your view. And be ok with it.
Stay off of social media. The biggest trap of the world is Facebook, Instagram, Youtube, Linked In. I personally view this device as hypnotism, it is really bad. When you do this, stay off, and if you want to use it, hire a VA or get someone else to post for you. Protect your viewpoints, protect your mind.
Start producing and creating with what you have. You may not have a million dollars, you may not have an influx of cash, but you have ideas, you have skills, and you have tools that you can use to make this work.
I write this because I have done this many times to get to the next level, and it is scary. I really want you just to have another viewpoint, a friendly viewpoint that does not come with antagonism, but one that is simply offering a viewpoint to help his fellow man.
I hope this helps and hope you can muster the courage to do what you know you have to do.
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